Record-Eagle Blogs: Females as batterers? Get the picture on domestic violence
Gloria Veltman
· 1 month ago
I'm a retired police officer. I will agree that in domestic violence, men are more frequently the perpetrators than women. However, I think that is partially due to under reporting and under reporting is due to the men's reluctance to admit that they can be victims. This is true not only among younger couples but I have also seen it among the elderly. I remember one elderly couple where she finally broke his arm. He still refused to cooperate in prosecuting her but said it was a turning point and he was going to divorce her. (This was back in the early 1980s). I could go down. I am glad to see some recognition given here and only deplore domestic violence in any form.
Always,
Gloria Veltman
jeannemhannah
· 1 month ago
Hello Gloria, thank you for your comment. I agree that men may be reluctant to report domestic violence -- sometimes for fear of embarrassment or reluctance to admit they can be victims. Women often under-report for several reasons, one of which is a fear that no one will believe them.
Domestic violence can be a vicious circle, with children learning from a parent that "it's OK to treat another human being this way."
sur juris male
· 1 month ago
How many domestic shelters exist for men? How many support services exist for men? How many men are awarded primary physical custody of their children upon a separation or divorce? How many studies are financed by non-agenda, unbiased sources seeking truth on DV reports?
How many children are physically abused by single female parents live-in boyfriends? What monies are recieved by federal and state sources by courts to prosecute MEN in dv cases? What monies are available to women (including DHS support) who claim abuse. Are these same monies/support available if they have a man/partner residing in the home with children? How many children are susceptible to increased drug abuse, poor grades, low self-esteem, high-school dropouts when the father is void in their lives?
Domestic violence has grown from a grassroots cottage industry to a full-scale well paid ivory tower of employment and subsidation, largely due to Joe Biden's creation of VAWA. Attorneys, counselors, advocates all make a very good living in this area on dv related endevours alone.
Fear, control, intimidation = man out of the house, welfare, subsidies, no self accountability for losing employment, free attorneys, and often a license to lie. I am a women, I am victim is tired, gender supported rhetoric.
How many men feel comfortable let alone recieve more than a smirk and laugh by responding police when attempts are made to file a report against a woman? I'm not happy due to my male partner, therefore I must be a victim. He controls the money and makes a better income therefore I'm an isolated victim.
In reality the real victim is the American family unit, the perpetrator is a family court system bent on recieving federal VAWA, VAF, and child support matching funds. Homosexuality is a moral issue. A child is not inherently better suited to being raised by a single female parent on welfare with a plethora of revolving boyfriend/pseudo father figures being paraded before them wtihout protection from abuse and neglect sans paternal involvment/access.
Are men physically larger and stronger than women, most often, yes. Do men make more money than female counterparts, often for the same position, yes, but fortunately that is changing. Do men act as protectors of their wives and children, yes.
Do women initiate DV upon their male partners, yes. Do women control money, access to children, yes. There's no more domestic violence per capita today than when my parents were raised during the throes of the depression. Is there massive amounts of money available to lawyers, judges, prosecutors, social service practitioners, and so-called family practitioners, yes.
Prosecutors can endite a ham sandwich, and that ham sandwich just applied for DV protection, is it male or female? Depends, it's female if found not guilty and given a check.
Ned Holstein and Glenn Sacks operate websites that illicit the truth in reporting DV and the industry surrounding it.
dawnthomas
· 3 weeks ago
Are you kidding me? You do not think that it is power and control to take someones child away from them? WOW! Abusive women can hold access to child over the fathers head, and do! The total disregard for fathers rights to their children, whithin our 'family courts' make this abuse possible. The female abuser knows this. ( as do the abused men) This, and the people who perpetrate this total violation of human rights, will surely go down in history along side our treatment of Native Americans and other attrocities. I believe we consider seperating children from parents a violation of human rights when it occurs in other countries.
sur juris male
· 3 weeks ago
True enough, power, control, intimidation, etc, are not the lone domain of Men, Woman demonstrate these characteristics just as often as Men.
Family courts have mined children as their own veritable gold strike. It takes individuals to assemble and present a united "no more" front to our severly broken Family Court system.
Between the 66% return on federal co-payments made to county FOC for child support collections and often fraudulent, if not obsesssive monetary based prosecutions for DV convictions, Men simply have little chance of being an integral part of their children's lives. Not only do Fathers have to support their children and child's mother, somehow, someway they have to eat, sleep, house, clothe, pay medical bills, and transportation for themselves. These factors simply do not command consideration by disparate FOC personnel.
We are already seeing the fallout from the dreadful self-rightous practices of indigant judges, FOC workers, DHS personnel, and attorneys/counselors living off the backs of our children.
I entirel agree the so called "best interest" system operates for the sole interest of lawyers, courts, and peripheral contract personnel. Of no, what we would do without their direction and guidance, poor helpless Americans.
The State is more than "big brother" now they are judge, jury, and internment specialists. This travesty of justice crosses all ethnic and cultural lines. Women do experience the insanity of CPS/DHS, FOC, and Family Court. $4-6,000 for each child adopted out with continual adoption subsidy payments makes for a comfy lifestyle for judges, prosecuters, FOC workers, etc. When was the last time you heard of these occupations voicing concern for layoffs, downsizing, or restructuring?
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Always,
Gloria Veltman
Domestic violence can be a vicious circle, with children learning from a parent that "it's OK to treat another human being this way."
How many children are physically abused by single female parents live-in boyfriends? What monies are recieved by federal and state sources by courts to prosecute MEN in dv cases? What monies are available to women (including DHS support) who claim abuse. Are these same monies/support available if they have a man/partner residing in the home with children? How many children are susceptible to increased drug abuse, poor grades, low self-esteem, high-school dropouts when the father is void in their lives?
Domestic violence has grown from a grassroots cottage industry to a full-scale well paid ivory tower of employment and subsidation, largely due to Joe Biden's creation of VAWA. Attorneys, counselors, advocates all make a very good living in this area on dv related endevours alone.
Fear, control, intimidation = man out of the house, welfare, subsidies, no self accountability for losing employment, free attorneys, and often a license to lie. I am a women, I am victim is tired, gender supported rhetoric.
How many men feel comfortable let alone recieve more than a smirk and laugh by responding police when attempts are made to file a report against a woman? I'm not happy due to my male partner, therefore I must be a victim. He controls the money and makes a better income therefore I'm an isolated victim.
In reality the real victim is the American family unit, the perpetrator is a family court system bent on recieving federal VAWA, VAF, and child support matching funds. Homosexuality is a moral issue. A child is not inherently better suited to being raised by a single female parent on welfare with a plethora of revolving boyfriend/pseudo father figures being paraded before them wtihout protection from abuse and neglect sans paternal involvment/access.
Are men physically larger and stronger than women, most often, yes. Do men make more money than female counterparts, often for the same position, yes, but fortunately that is changing. Do men act as protectors of their wives and children, yes.
Do women initiate DV upon their male partners, yes. Do women control money, access to children, yes. There's no more domestic violence per capita today than when my parents were raised during the throes of the depression. Is there massive amounts of money available to lawyers, judges, prosecutors, social service practitioners, and so-called family practitioners, yes.
Prosecutors can endite a ham sandwich, and that ham sandwich just applied for DV protection, is it male or female? Depends, it's female if found not guilty and given a check.
Ned Holstein and Glenn Sacks operate websites that illicit the truth in reporting DV and the industry surrounding it.
Family courts have mined children as their own veritable gold strike. It takes individuals to assemble and present a united "no more" front to our severly broken Family Court system.
Between the 66% return on federal co-payments made to county FOC for child support collections and often fraudulent, if not obsesssive monetary based prosecutions for DV convictions, Men simply have little chance of being an integral part of their children's lives. Not only do Fathers have to support their children and child's mother, somehow, someway they have to eat, sleep, house, clothe, pay medical bills, and transportation for themselves. These factors simply do not command consideration by disparate FOC personnel.
We are already seeing the fallout from the dreadful self-rightous practices of indigant judges, FOC workers, DHS personnel, and attorneys/counselors living off the backs of our children.
I entirel agree the so called "best interest" system operates for the sole interest of lawyers, courts, and peripheral contract personnel. Of no, what we would do without their direction and guidance, poor helpless Americans.
The State is more than "big brother" now they are judge, jury, and internment specialists. This travesty of justice crosses all ethnic and cultural lines. Women do experience the insanity of CPS/DHS, FOC, and Family Court. $4-6,000 for each child adopted out with continual adoption subsidy payments makes for a comfy lifestyle for judges, prosecuters, FOC workers, etc. When was the last time you heard of these occupations voicing concern for layoffs, downsizing, or restructuring?